InLove

There is an awesome quality combination that women should posess, but only few do. That combination is ambition and meekness. The woman who has the drive and determination to make money but the willingness to let her husband teach her how to properly spend it. The woman that can get money, but still take care of home. The woman that can travel the country doing her thing but never leave family behind.

This woman is a hard one to find. In today’s society the word “submissive” is taboo. It’s sad, but what that shows is just how wicked the world is growing. Many people are forsaking the teachings of the Bible and growing more and more evil. Our people are losing the essence that God instilled from the beginning. The Bible says “wives submit unto your husbands, and husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church”. That statement is clear, but so many people are getting caught up chasing money and dreams and forgetting about the duties we have at home.

I praise the women out there that have found a balance. The women who are successfully pursuing their dreams and goals, but at the same time taking care of home and sharing true love.

God Bless!

Many of us go into dating without ever really knowing what we are getting into. Then all of a sudden a light comes on and we realize that the person we are with aren’t who we thought they were. Whose to blame? Certainly not the person you’re with. It’s your fault because you didn’t ask enough questions.

You want to find a person that is articulate and that can think and speak easily. What I’m talking about isn’t just the actual skill but the process of being someone who can think through problems and understand themselves. If you ask a person questions about themselves and they give you “I don’t know” answers then that isn’t someone that is ready for a real relationship. In order to be in a relationship we must first be complete, otherwise we will just tear down what the other person is trying to build.

So when you are seeking true love, ask questions! Get a list of basic questions that will show you that persons current situation, future goals and aspirations and their past. You want to know where the person has been and where they are going. That way if you are taking the ride with them, you will know what to expect. Never hold back questions because you are afraid of running them off! In actuality that is exactly what you want to find out. If a person can’t stand answering a few simple questions then you know they won’t be able to stand the trials and tribulations that come with dating.

Be smart and Be blessed!

There is a type of woman that stands out before the rest. This woman is the “listening woman”. This woman can speak for herself, she can also think for herself. She can do for herself and in essence all she really needs is herself. But she has learned that two heads are better than one and she has accepted her God given role.

She understands her role is not to stand by a man to deceive him into doing things her way. Instead her role is to stand by him to give him the strength to do things the way they ought to be done. This woman has decided she will listen and learn. She’s understood that although she has wisdom of her own, there is another type of wisdom that she lacks. So instead of just settling with what she has, she is open to advice and leadership from her man.

This is the “listening woman”. She has become a man’s pride and joy. She is all that he needs and he wouldn’t trade her for the world. Wow, what a gem she is. So rare, so pure, so distinct. This is the “listening woman”.

Ask yourself: When is the last time I just shut up and listened?? Who have I ran off because I wouldn’t listen? How much better would my life and relationships be if I’d just listen? The “listening woman” just listens even if she knows she is right and what she is listening to is wrong. She listens because she knows a wise person doesn’t argue with a fool. She listens because she knows that a fool will be corrected by life and she doesn’t have to say word.

This “listening woman” listens soo much she is wise beyond her years, therefore she has nothing to prove. All she does is listen and live by example.

God Bless!

That’s an awesome phrase I heard a young lady say and I was shocked that it came from a woman, but it sat very well with me. The reason why is because women ought to try and learn what keeps beating them instead of getting mad at it. We all know we can’t function properly when we are mad anyways, so don’t get mad get smart.

With Fathers day approaching it’s important that Fathers realize when raising daughters it’s more to teach them than just how to cook and clean. We have to teach our daughters how to live and cope with a man. A woman can hold a masters degree, make 100k a year, drive a benz, and be well kept. But if she doesn’t know how to handle a man then her life could be doomed. So it’s important that women try their best to understand what goes on inside of a man’s head. What makes him tick? What makes him want more than just you? What makes him hit? What makes him happy? What makes him mad?

Those are lessons women ought to seek out and get all the wisdom, knowledge and understanding they can hold. You won’t go wrong, trust! You can use all the knowledge you can get on subjects like these. It’s time we grow and communicate so that we can better understand one another and so we can have longer and healthier relationships.

God Bless!

There is a surge of men trying to find themselves in our broken economy. All many men have on their mind is dollar signs, or how to make a dollar. Many men can’t sleep at night because they toss and turn trying to come up with a way to get ahead. Their wife or girlfriend isn’t getting to many hugs or kisses because his mind is preoccupied with the the pie in the sky.

What is a woman to do? You can make a change in that man if you desire to, but if your goal in life is making money too then I’m sure you are fine with the way things are. So this blog is for the women who don’t care about how much money her man has. This is for the woman that values family more than material wealth. I say to you: sit him down and look him in the eye, then tell him how much he means to you. Remind him that it profits a man nothing to gain the whole world and to lose his soul. Tell him that money can’t buy happiness and that you would be completely satisfied as long as the bills can be paid and you have love. Let him know you don’t like sleeping with an invisible man or having to kiss yourself on your way out to work. Let him know that his dream chasing, is your nightmare chasing you.

I hope and pray that you can come to realization with your other half my friend. It’s not about how much wealth we can accumulate on this earth, but instead it’s about what we are storing up in heaven. Live for God and love life not worrying about tomorrow. Let tomorrow take care of itself, because after all-it’s not even promised to us.

God Bless!

Love is about trust, but as easy as it is said we all know it’s one of the hardest things to do. Trusting someone could take forever if you let it, but I believe I’ve found the secret.

We view life and gain knowledge by our own experiences and the experiences of those around us. Therefore we only know what we’ve lived or what we’ve seen. Therefore we are able to make judgements about certain situations with the knowledge we’ve gained in the past.

With that being said: I believe that the key to trusting someone else is first being able to trust yourself. If you can trust yourself and you have no sense of guilt then you won’t expect your partner to have any either. If you are complete and you love yourself and you love your partner then you will expect the same in return.

So next time when you start feeling insecure think really hard about why those feelings exist. Try to pin point why you feel he or she may want someone besides you. The real answer may be because at times you find yourself wanting someone other than them. Therefore you conscious mind tells you if it’s possible for you then it’s possible for them and that may not be completely truly. But that speculation could lead to problems in the relationship.

So before you get to serious, make sure that you are complete as a person. Then you will be able to enter into a relationship whole and secure and able to trust the person with all your heart.

God Bless!

Many women are going to church looking for that special someone. Some assume that just because he is in church that he is good for her, sadly they come up short over and over again.

There is something about a Godly man that goes much farther than the Sunday morning pew. This man actually lives it. This is the man that is in Church Sunday, but wasn’t out drinking or partying last night. This is the man that never looks at you because his eyes are focused on God. This is the man that you’ve never heard any rumors about him and other women. If anything you’ve heard some say he may be “gay” because he is never with a woman. This man here just might be the man you’ve been looking for. The man of God.

Don’t judge a book by it’s cover, just as you can’t judge a Christian by the row their sitting in. You have to look deeper and see if the life of that man lines up with the word of God. And the only way you will know that is if you get to know God yourself. So when you are in Church and hoping that the special man taps you on your shoulder, just know if he is really into God then he may never even notice you. If you remember that maybe next time you won’t get snatched up by the “wolf in sheeps clothing”.

This is my “Sunday’s Best”.

God Bless!

Sometimes we make a mistake and we let love go to soon. Other times we make the mistake and we hold on to love to long. It’s hard to tell which is the right thing to do, but I do believe there is a difference.

Holding on to something that makes you a better person or that keeps you wanting more, that is a good thing. But on the other hand, holding on to something that keeps you down and out that is a bad thing. It sounds simple, but we all know it can get very complicated.

So look at your love today and see if it’s worth holding on to. See if every second chance you give turns out the same way as the one before. Sometimes we gotta let go and let God. Sometimes we gotta tough it out and realize that in life the best thing for us is often times the hardest thing to do.

Don’t drain yourself holding on to someone who will never change. Or holding on to someone who only changes their words and promises but never their actions. Instead hold on to someone that is growing each day and you can see the difference in their life.

No one said love would be easy, but make sure what you are holding on to is really love. If it’s worth having then it’s worth fighting for.

God Bless!

A lot of times a person will say the sweetest things to their other half trying to win their heart. The sad thing is not all of it is true. It’s hard to tell most of time because you naturally want to trust the person, but we have to go a little further to really find out. When you are giving your heart to someone, that’s a pretty serious deal. Therefore you should make sure that the person will take care of your heart when they get it.

I’ve found out that the best way to know if someone is just spitting game or not is to put them to a test. It’s always been said that “actions speak louder than words” and that is very true. So if someone says they love you with all their heart or will do anything for you, try them out to see if they really mean it. Come up with a list of things you want them to do to really win you over, and ask those things of them to see if they are really willing to sacrifice of themselves for you. Remember if you intend to love and be loved then you are worth it!

Never give in trusting in someone’s words alone! That is one way to get your heart broke over and over again! Take it from someone who has broken many hearts because women trusted in “words” and not in “actions”.

God Bless!

Talk about letting a man have his cake and eat it too! For any unsaved man this would be a dream come true and many men have had this dream fulfilled. Only to one day wake up to a nightmare. With that being said, I say if you really like him them you’d let him go.

Think about the foundation of lies and deceit that your relationship is built on and then ask yourself can it stand the test of time. If he did it to her what makes you think he won’t do it to you? Now that you’ve found out he is married if you continue to see him he will lose all respect for you because you wouldn’t be respecting yourself.

To a married man, the woman on the side is just that. The woman he is married to is who really has his heart and is who will always have his heart no matter how many other women he goes through. The cheating with you is just to fill a void in his marriage or to show himself he still has what it takes to woo a woman. I wouldn’t advise continuing to be a play toy or second best.

Every woman deserves to be the #1 in a man’s life so don’t settle for anything less. Lastly, please know that karma is real and if you do that woman like that it’s going to come back on you and probably a whole lot worse!

Be careful and God Bless!