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The build up, the tension, the worry, the anxiety, all for what? Many people put so much thought into marriage before marriage and don’t realize that it’s almost just like dating. The good thing is that when you are married you aren’t in sexual sin. The consistent part is that the same love you had before your marriage you can have during your marriage.

There is no right time for marriage. There isn’t a set month, age or year that one should get married. Marriage is legal dating. If the relationship was great before marriage then it can be great during marriage. If the relationship was horrible before marriage then it will most likely be horrible during marriage. The piece of paper doesn’t change a thing, contrary to popular belief.

Marriage is a union that is meant to happen. So if you’re with the person of your dreams, go for it. Why waste time losing out on the benefits of Holy matrimony. Get married and squared away before the flames go out and it’s too late.

Many live a lifetime fearing the unknown because they don’t realize that what they think is a mystery or a curse is really what they are living already. Marriage in many ways is the icing on the cake. It is what you make it, so make it happen because you aren’t getting any younger.

God Bless

All over we are watching women degrade themselves for the company of a man. Many women feel lost or helpless without a man. They look to this man for completion and or security. They look to this man for guidance and or leadership. The sad part is, a lot of the women that are leaning on this man for this are leaning on grown boys, not men.

These women are trusting in and relying on grown boys who haven’t yet discovered their purpose on this earth. Grown boys who don’t really understand themselves or what they want out of life. Grown boys who pretend to know who and what they are, by living through the lives of others. Grown boys with a hidden “momma’s boy” complex who seek out and prey on weak women. These grown boys are looking for a mother in the form of a girlfriend. Many of them are finding what they need because our society is yielding more and more of these type of women.

Signs to know something is going wrong. The woman is working and the man is “hustling” or doing nothing. The woman pays the bills and the man run’s them up. The woman has the car but the man drives it. The woman has the apartment or home, but the man run’s it. The man decides where the woman can and can’t go. The man put’s his hands the woman. The man decides who the woman does and doesn’t talk to. These are just a few signs, there are more but I’m sure you get the point.

If you are this type of woman or you know a woman who is “lost” without her “grown boy”, be sure to let her know she is worth more. Let her know that she deserves better, and in order for a man to truly take care of her he must first understand himself. Let her know a thug is not a man, he’s a lost soul. Let her know a dreamer who doesn’t act is not a man, he’s a lost soul. Let her know that she must first be complete in order to get the respect she deserves from a man. Lastly, remember the design by God. Woman wasn’t put here to raise her husband, she was put here to be a help-mate to a God fearing, righteous living man. That’s the only way you’ll find marital bliss!

God Bless!

If you go to your bank to make a withdrawl, would you expect the teller to give you $100, if you only put in $50? That is how a lot of people are treating relationships these days. Many people come into a relationship bringing baggage and bad habits, but expect to get love, trust and respect. It just doesn’t add up.

If you are a woman and you strip for a living, meaning you sell your body, you can’t expect a man to love and cherish you. Reason being, you don’t love and cherish yourself. If you are a man and you sell drugs for a living, you can’t expect a woman with a bachelors degree and a real job to settle down with you and take you serious. Although some people make these mistakes, they soon find out that the two just don’t mix and it won’t last. Again, it’s like a mansion built on the sand.

So when going into a relationship, put in what you want to get out. Give what you want to get in return. Be realistic and really come to terms with your self-worth. If you can’t do that, then just ask someone who is completely honest and straight forward what they think of you. I know ppl say it doesn’t matter what others think, but in reality that is the furthest thing from the truth. We are nothing but what others think of us. We aren’t given the privilege in life to define ourselves, especially if our definition is a lie. If you think what you think is all that matters, let me ask you this: When is the last time you interviewed yourself for a job and had the opportunity to decide if you get it or not? When is the last time you graded your own work and that’s the grade that went in the books? When is the last time you were able to decide for yourself where you would fit inside of someone else’s business, or life? We are what others think of us, so make sure you are portraying what you want others to perceive. The trick is, we may never really know how people really see us. But one thing is for sure, we will get out what we put in. It’s the law of the land.

God Bless!

There is a new type of woman surfacing in this ever independent society. This is the “available” woman. The woman who doesn’t mention her other half until she knows the man she is conversing with has the guts to mention his other half.

A select group of dating or married men have tested this new phenomenon and have been left baffled by the findings. The question is: Why? There was a time that a woman would let you know she had a boyfriend, fiance, or husband before you even opened your mouth to speak to her. Now days many women will talk with a man for hours never mentioning they are seeing someone unless that man does.

So I ask: If that man never mentions his other half, would the women mention hers? It’s the weirdest thing, but it shows us the way our world is growing. Are we coming into a time that women are keeping their options open just as men have always done? Are we coming into a time where women will cheat without really caring as men have always done? It seems women are assuming the same positions as men these days and many women are making more money than men these days also, so now are women beginning to think like men too?

It’s somewhat confusing to the men that have encountered these type of women. The man doesn’t know whether to be flattered or disgusted, at least he can be proud of the fact that he beat a woman to the punch of admitting to being in a relationship. So if you are a woman, ask yourself if you are this type of woman. If so, what type of man makes you become this “available” woman? I wouldn’t practice this tactic to often though, it will only come back to bite you.

God Bless!

There is a woman out there that has learned how to manage her time so that she can get the best out of herself and her day. She has calculated what it takes to be a Christian,wife, mother, employee, and entrepreneur. She has prioritized in such a way that she confuses the average woman. There is no wasted time in this woman’s day. She’s like a machine almost. She has devised a system that leaves no area of her life lacking. She is able to please God, herself and man all in a days time.

In actuality this is how God designed a woman to be, but many have fallen short. So if today you are the “Robo-Woman” pat yourself on the back and keep finding ways to become even better. If you haven’t grown to be that type of woman yet, sit down and figure out what are you lacking and how can you better use the time in your day. Here’s a daily planner from a Robo-Woman I know.

1.Wake up,brush up,sit and Read a Chapter from the Holy Bible
2.Get the kid(s) up and make their breakfast,change pampers,etc
3.Put on the clothes you’ve already had picked out and ironed from the day before.
4.Make yourself a little breakfast,and leave the husband a note leading him to his food and work.
5.Go to work and fully dedicate to your job no matter how much you hate it.
6. Get off work and go get the kid(s).
7. Come home square the kids away and beginn cooking dinner.
8. While dinner is cooking spend time with the husband and the kids
9. Serve dinner,then when it’s finished clean and wash the dishes.
10. Prepare the kid(s) for bed.
11. Get your clothes picked out and ironed for the next day for you and the husband.
12. Get on the computer and take care of your email,web-business,or personal aspirations
13.Shower, cuddle with the husband meeting both your needs.
14. Be in bed by 11pm and sleep well from a long days work!!
15.Wake up shower,and do it all over again with PRIDE!

I keep hearing this statement, loud and proud. It seems as if women are empowering themselves to the point that they become self sufficient and no longer have to depend on two incomes or a man to help them run their life.

This is a new age and a new day and with Oprah and Hillary Clinton on every page women all over are becoming stronger. Many men are wondering how will this effect their “prowl”, how can they get close enough to a woman to get her to let her guards down. What many aren’t realizing is this is a good thing.

It feels a lot better to find a woman who has already found herself. A woman who knows who she is and what she wants out of life. A woman that is understanding and submissive to the will of a good man. This woman develops these ways by first being able to develop herself.

So now all we need is for men to get that same type of power, in the black race educated women to men is 7:1. We need men to step up and decide to become more self sufficient and find out who they really are before entering into a woman’s life and ruining her because he hasn’t found his self yet. If we come together as two complete beings the mesh will be a lot easier and we will be able to work together instead of one for the other.

There is an awesome quality combination that women should posess, but only few do. That combination is ambition and meekness. The woman who has the drive and determination to make money but the willingness to let her husband teach her how to properly spend it. The woman that can get money, but still take care of home. The woman that can travel the country doing her thing but never leave family behind.

This woman is a hard one to find. In today’s society the word “submissive” is taboo. It’s sad, but what that shows is just how wicked the world is growing. Many people are forsaking the teachings of the Bible and growing more and more evil. Our people are losing the essence that God instilled from the beginning. The Bible says “wives submit unto your husbands, and husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church”. That statement is clear, but so many people are getting caught up chasing money and dreams and forgetting about the duties we have at home.

I praise the women out there that have found a balance. The women who are successfully pursuing their dreams and goals, but at the same time taking care of home and sharing true love.

God Bless!

There is a surge of men trying to find themselves in our broken economy. All many men have on their mind is dollar signs, or how to make a dollar. Many men can’t sleep at night because they toss and turn trying to come up with a way to get ahead. Their wife or girlfriend isn’t getting to many hugs or kisses because his mind is preoccupied with the the pie in the sky.

What is a woman to do? You can make a change in that man if you desire to, but if your goal in life is making money too then I’m sure you are fine with the way things are. So this blog is for the women who don’t care about how much money her man has. This is for the woman that values family more than material wealth. I say to you: sit him down and look him in the eye, then tell him how much he means to you. Remind him that it profits a man nothing to gain the whole world and to lose his soul. Tell him that money can’t buy happiness and that you would be completely satisfied as long as the bills can be paid and you have love. Let him know you don’t like sleeping with an invisible man or having to kiss yourself on your way out to work. Let him know that his dream chasing, is your nightmare chasing you.

I hope and pray that you can come to realization with your other half my friend. It’s not about how much wealth we can accumulate on this earth, but instead it’s about what we are storing up in heaven. Live for God and love life not worrying about tomorrow. Let tomorrow take care of itself, because after all-it’s not even promised to us.

God Bless!

Sometimes we make a mistake and we let love go to soon. Other times we make the mistake and we hold on to love to long. It’s hard to tell which is the right thing to do, but I do believe there is a difference.

Holding on to something that makes you a better person or that keeps you wanting more, that is a good thing. But on the other hand, holding on to something that keeps you down and out that is a bad thing. It sounds simple, but we all know it can get very complicated.

So look at your love today and see if it’s worth holding on to. See if every second chance you give turns out the same way as the one before. Sometimes we gotta let go and let God. Sometimes we gotta tough it out and realize that in life the best thing for us is often times the hardest thing to do.

Don’t drain yourself holding on to someone who will never change. Or holding on to someone who only changes their words and promises but never their actions. Instead hold on to someone that is growing each day and you can see the difference in their life.

No one said love would be easy, but make sure what you are holding on to is really love. If it’s worth having then it’s worth fighting for.

God Bless!

This is a confusing issue for many men. I have to admit that I struggle with this same issue. I know for a lot of men we feel that our child will become spoiled and then when they are of age they will be unruly. On the contrary I’ve learned that’s not true.

I spoke with my Father about my childhood and how I was raised. He informed me that as a baby I was babied, as I child I was taken care of and as a man I’m treated like a man. So what I gathered is that there is a time for everything. There is a time to cuddle and love, there is a time to correct and chasten, there is a time to rule and regulate.

So rest assure my friend that your baby won’t be a baby always and there will be a time when your wife will beg you to lay down the law. We have our seperate roles and we have to be sure that we operate in them at the right time.

Take your time and know that even if your child is spoiled as a baby, there is plenty of time to reverse that behavior and raise a well-mannered child. A woman has to give that type of love because as a man often times we don’t posess it. So respect her position and let her give the love that was placed inside of her by God. Then when it’s your turn she will welcome your “tough love” and it will be much needed!