InLove

The build up, the tension, the worry, the anxiety, all for what? Many people put so much thought into marriage before marriage and don’t realize that it’s almost just like dating. The good thing is that when you are married you aren’t in sexual sin. The consistent part is that the same love you had before your marriage you can have during your marriage.

There is no right time for marriage. There isn’t a set month, age or year that one should get married. Marriage is legal dating. If the relationship was great before marriage then it can be great during marriage. If the relationship was horrible before marriage then it will most likely be horrible during marriage. The piece of paper doesn’t change a thing, contrary to popular belief.

Marriage is a union that is meant to happen. So if you’re with the person of your dreams, go for it. Why waste time losing out on the benefits of Holy matrimony. Get married and squared away before the flames go out and it’s too late.

Many live a lifetime fearing the unknown because they don’t realize that what they think is a mystery or a curse is really what they are living already. Marriage in many ways is the icing on the cake. It is what you make it, so make it happen because you aren’t getting any younger.

God Bless

Today we are noticing many women who keep their guards up. A man can’t even have a casual conversation for the woman’s fear of being gamed. As soon as he opens his mouth she jumps down his throat and believes he is trying to woo her or talk her out of her phone number. As true as it may be for most men, what about the genuine man? What about the answer to the problem? What about the man who could be the man of your dreams?

The guarded woman pushes him away too. This man could be able to help you get through the rough times, or offer you a new break in life, but the guarded woman pushes him away too. Women should keep their guards up, but they should be invisible. The guards shouldn’t be mean faces, harsh words, or rolling of the eyes. The guards should be genuine and sincere questions, simple and complex.

Questions like: Are you in a relationship? What is your occupation? Do you have your own place? Do you have a car? Do you have kids? And so on. Get those answers even if he just wants to be a “friend” because all of that info will affect your relationship with him. Don’t just hear what he has to say, but research it for yourself and find it to be true or false.

Keep in mind while gaurding your heart, you will know the tree by the fruit that it bares! There are good men still roaming around, and their actions will solidify their intentions. Make sure you don’t box the man of your dreams out of your life because you are too guarded to look into his eyes and seek out the truth.

God Bless!

When I heard this it made me laugh, but not in a bad way. It was amusing to me because this is actually a solution to many black women’s problems. In the same day I encountered two young beautiful black females that said they want a white man. I wasn’t shocked or appalled, I just wanted to know why.

We are noticing this taking place more and more. Educated black women or high class black women are growing out of the black man, not all but many. Many of the women in this category remain single, afraid to conquer the beast. They are afraid of what others will say or think, so they are secretly battling with what they want deep down.

I don’t believe that many black men feel threatened by this attitude. Mainly because if a black woman wants a white man whole heartedly then most likely she isn’t the type of woman that appeals to a black man. Also if a white man wants a black woman then he is often times liked or respected by black men. With that being the case, no one is stepping on toes. Instead they are just walking in their destiny.

“He who makes the rules, can break the rules”. If you think about that long enough then you will realize why there isn’t as big of a problem with white men dating black women as it is with black men dating white women.

Live and let love! “Like who likes you, not who you like”!

God Bless!

All over we are watching women degrade themselves for the company of a man. Many women feel lost or helpless without a man. They look to this man for completion and or security. They look to this man for guidance and or leadership. The sad part is, a lot of the women that are leaning on this man for this are leaning on grown boys, not men.

These women are trusting in and relying on grown boys who haven’t yet discovered their purpose on this earth. Grown boys who don’t really understand themselves or what they want out of life. Grown boys who pretend to know who and what they are, by living through the lives of others. Grown boys with a hidden “momma’s boy” complex who seek out and prey on weak women. These grown boys are looking for a mother in the form of a girlfriend. Many of them are finding what they need because our society is yielding more and more of these type of women.

Signs to know something is going wrong. The woman is working and the man is “hustling” or doing nothing. The woman pays the bills and the man run’s them up. The woman has the car but the man drives it. The woman has the apartment or home, but the man run’s it. The man decides where the woman can and can’t go. The man put’s his hands the woman. The man decides who the woman does and doesn’t talk to. These are just a few signs, there are more but I’m sure you get the point.

If you are this type of woman or you know a woman who is “lost” without her “grown boy”, be sure to let her know she is worth more. Let her know that she deserves better, and in order for a man to truly take care of her he must first understand himself. Let her know a thug is not a man, he’s a lost soul. Let her know a dreamer who doesn’t act is not a man, he’s a lost soul. Let her know that she must first be complete in order to get the respect she deserves from a man. Lastly, remember the design by God. Woman wasn’t put here to raise her husband, she was put here to be a help-mate to a God fearing, righteous living man. That’s the only way you’ll find marital bliss!

God Bless!